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Post by Lesley on May 11, 2015 13:09:05 GMT
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Post by Lesley on Apr 23, 2015 13:05:12 GMT
I hope things are looking brighter now, luddite. Life and relationships can indeed be hard. As shiveringsky says, keep venting as long as it helps - and I hope there is offline help available to you as well.
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Post by Lesley on Mar 9, 2015 16:38:41 GMT
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Post by Lesley on Mar 7, 2015 17:06:02 GMT
(NB remember that unwell with a virus this week, and haven't actually taken proper time out jus to be ill... need to stop beating self up about what's not done and mentally let go/practice that mindful self-compassion learning) Yes, indeed! Be kind to yourself. Hope you feel better soon xx
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Post by Lesley on Mar 6, 2015 8:47:14 GMT
Hurrah!
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Post by Lesley on Mar 3, 2015 0:28:24 GMT
Hello petra. Sounds like things are moving in the right direction for you - glad to see that.
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Post by Lesley on Mar 2, 2015 23:36:36 GMT
Hello, contrarymary. Very glad to be back, but will probably be dropping in and out. Got a busy time coming up. On the other hand, I've just acquired a laptop, so will probably be online more, and might therefore be here more too.
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Post by Lesley on Mar 2, 2015 17:17:37 GMT
Wonderful news! So happy for you and her!
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Post by Lesley on Mar 1, 2015 17:38:37 GMT
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Post by Lesley on Sept 22, 2014 17:25:57 GMT
I made some model aeroplanes as a child (can't remember how long that particular enthusiasm lasted). I never got around to painting them. I'd forgotten about them until I read your post, Bee.
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Post by Lesley on Sept 14, 2014 16:05:29 GMT
I'm sorry you're finding (and by the sound of it have always found) life so tough, Bengal7. And it's a bummer when your doctor becomes another obstacle in your way when they should be part of your support team. There's a lot of information on this site and on the main AADD-UK site about what to do when your doctor and your health authority put barriers in the way of getting referred to an ADHD specialist for assessment. You need to check out the NICE Guidelines, know what you're entitled to expect and be prepared to persevere. You'll get a lot of support from people on here. I seem to remember from older posts that there's quite a lot of good practice in the North West. You should be able to get an out-of-area referral to someone in, say, the Manchester area. There are others around who will know more than me. Good luck with it.
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Post by Lesley on Sept 14, 2014 13:53:39 GMT
I've done exactly the same. I always hoped when I moved on that this time we'd keep in touch, but it never happened. (With one exception - and that's down to my friend doing all the hard work).
When I first read about ADHD in adults, it was the social aspects that rang a loud bell first of all.
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Post by Lesley on Sept 14, 2014 13:50:23 GMT
Here, here. This is bullying plain and simple.
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Sept 3, 2014 22:31:56 GMT
Post by Lesley on Sept 3, 2014 22:31:56 GMT
I'm really sorry to hear that. I hope the ADs begin to have an effect soon. Hugs and warm wishes xxx
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Sept 3, 2014 14:33:55 GMT
Post by Lesley on Sept 3, 2014 14:33:55 GMT
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Post by Lesley on Sept 3, 2014 12:47:58 GMT
I wonder if the press will pick this up. Wouldn't it be wonderful if every newspaper, TV channel and radio station on Thursday was full of (factually accurate) stories about the game and adult ADHD.
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Post by Lesley on Aug 27, 2014 16:31:18 GMT
Had asthma as a child, but never had eczema, though I did once have a rash which spread all over my body, and seems to have been due to stress. At least, it didn't respond to anti-histamines or antibiotics, but did disappear once I'd dealt with the only aspect of the various stresses I was facing at the time which was under my control.
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Post by Lesley on Aug 27, 2014 13:34:16 GMT
Glad to hear that you've managed to make a start and are pleased with the results, greyblanket. I said I'd say something about the two books. and I think what I wanted to say boils down to that I think there's a lot to be said for both of them. When I was using LZ (the book we were all trying to use and petra is now using again - "The Mindfulness Prescription for Adult ADHD" by Lydia Zylowska) last autumn I was a little put out that it didn't use the same exercises in the same order as the course I had done earlier in the year (I have a tendency to think the way I am first introduced to something is the "right" way) and also I was influenced by other people's dislike of it. In spite of this I did get quite a lot out of the few exercises I did. I've just started reading it again - I've read Chapters 1 and 2 so far, and think she does do a good job of explaining how mindfulness can help with the problems of executive function which come with ADHD. I'm going to start using the book again, doing again some of the exercises I've already done, skipping others, and carrying on to the end this time, hopefully giving everything a try, or at least most things. My aim will be to incorporate anything I find useful as part of - or maybe even a development of - my now established (brief) daily (well, most days) mindfulness practice. I also have MW (the book recommended by scatterbrain - "Mindfulness: A Practical Guide to Finding Peace in a Frantic World" by Mark Williams and Danny Penman). This was recommended to me ages ago by a friend (who doesn't have ADHD). One of the things she liked about it was his voice on the CD! I thought about buying it, then earlier this year the woman who taught my course last year announced that she would be doing a course based on it, with a copy of the book included as course materials. So I signed up, did the course in April and May this year, and got the book that way. It was, of course, a lot easier to get through the book with the support of the tutor and class than it had been to try working through LZ by myself! The way mindfulness is introduced in MW is a lot closer to the way it was taught in my last year's course (not a coincidence - my tutor trained with Mark Williams) so of course I also liked it because of that. But I do also find his way of explaining things very clear and very gentle. I like the fact that in the guided meditations he is always giving alternatives or saying "if you choose", and emphasising that you should do what works for you. And because the guided meditations are brief, and because I made a point of doing them as often as possible first thing in the morning, I found that when the course finished I was able to carrying on doing it. So now I sit mindfully (usually silently now) for about 10 minutes every morning, usually before breakfast (except when I don't - I miss the odd day, and missed several last week and struggled to get back into the habit). My plan is to carry on doing a brief session of mindfulness every morning, and to start doing a longer session later in the day a couple of times a week - but that hasn't happened yet. I also need to do more on being mindful throughout the day - at the moment it tends to be the morning session and that's it (though I think I do feel the benefit throughout the day). So I think either book or both of them could be recommended to someone with ADHD wanting to try mindfulness. But I would suggest people make full use of their public library (use it or lose it! - that really seems to be the case at the moment) to see if any book suits them before buying it. petra - I'd be really interested to hear how you're getting on with LZ - and also how your mother is doing with MW.
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Post by Lesley on Aug 16, 2014 7:42:25 GMT
I still want to say something about the two books, but it won't be before Tuesday at the earliest now. Got to go and get ready for a weekend away (Dorset coast, camping with friends, 60th birthday party) now.
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Post by Lesley on Aug 16, 2014 7:37:46 GMT
Must be brief at the moment - but I do want to say a couple of things to greyblanket before disappearing again (but not for long, I hope). First, I'd suggest you don't buy either book yet. Reading through your post, I'd say you got good advice from your "teacher and healer", and that you were doing well and developing a practice that worked for you until you were derailed by what you recognise is your own "over ambitious perfectionist". If you want to do something straight away, I would start again with what was working for you before. One of the things both books have in common is that they emphasise that "it's your journey" and you should do what feels right to you. I've had a very quick look at the Wildmind site, which I hadn't heard of before. You imply that you may have been (mis?)interpreting them when you decided you were doing it wrong - I think you may be right about that, but whether it was them or you saying it, I think it's wrong to say that it's a bad thing to focus on the relaxation response. There are many different types of meditation. Insight or Mindfulness meditation (I think they're both translations of the same Buddhist word) isn't aimed at achieving relaxation - other types are. If you found that using the mix of methods you had developed helped you relax, and that was something you needed, then that's fine. It was obviously doing more than just help you relax, though - it was doing other good things for you as well, which are the kind of things you hope to get from a mindfulness practice. This thread isn't really a "meditate-along" - it started out with more-or-less that intention, but we found that didn't work. so we started all doing our own thing and reporting back on it when we felt up to it, encouraging each other and learning from each other. I skimmed through this thread last night and think I need to come back and re-read it properly - there's an awful lot to learn from it. You might like to do that if you haven't already - you'll find we really all do do things our own way, and also that we all have our own inner perfectionist who tells us we're doing it wrong - but we are all here to remind each other to be kind to ourself (which is one of the goals of mindfulness). So start with five minutes a day doing what worked for you, let us know how it went, we'll be encouraging and we'll share what we've been doing so you can encourage us. And if you do feel you want to try either of the books (or any other book), can I suggest you borrow it from the library first so you can see if it's going to work for you, and buy it later if you're really sure it's going to be helpful to you. Go well.
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Post by Lesley on Aug 15, 2014 17:29:49 GMT
So pleased you've started this again, petra, and that it's going better this time. See what you miss when you don't log in! - I'd have known about this ages ago if I had done. And contrarymary - glad you're giving it a go again too. scatterbrain - I've read your book and like it. Will come back and say more later. And greyblanket - I've just printed your post off to read - will write more after dinner.
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Post by Lesley on Aug 15, 2014 17:13:55 GMT
Hi Petra
I was so pleased to read this that I have actually logged in for the first time in ages so I could congratulate you!
It's greatly deserved after all your struggle and persistence. I so hope it does everything that you have been hoping for.
I hope to be back and participating properly soon.
Lesley xx
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Post by Lesley on Mar 24, 2014 19:14:27 GMT
Well done, JJ!
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Post by Lesley on Jan 20, 2014 16:55:00 GMT
Best of luck from me too (having just surfaced out of semi-hibernation).
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Post by Lesley on Jan 20, 2014 16:08:17 GMT
Glad it's working so well for you.
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Post by Lesley on Jan 20, 2014 15:42:44 GMT
Attachment attached - or not, as the case may be. Habits.doc (28 KB)
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Post by Lesley on Jan 20, 2014 15:37:33 GMT
Hi Tess I don't know how you feel about reading, but I recently read two books about habits, both of which were interesting in different ways and both I feel potentially very useful (I say potentially because I haven't actually tried putting them into practice yet!). They're quite theoretical, not 'how-to' books, so although they do contain practical advice you have to sort of dig it out rather than it being presented to you. They are Jeremy Dean Making Habits, Breaking Habits www.amazon.co.uk/Making-Habits-Breaking-Changes-Stick/dp/1851689893 and www.spring.org.uk/making-habits-breaking-habitsCharles Duhigg The Power of Habit www.amazon.co.uk/Power-Habit-Why-What-Change/dp/1847946240 and charlesduhigg.com/the-power-of-habit/I managed to make pretty good notes on the Dean book (a first for me, and maybe a sign that the meds are working!). I don't know how useful they'll be for anyone else, as they were made with my interests in mind, not your's but I'm happy to try attaching them (never done that here before)/sending them/if all else fails copying and pasting them. I still also intend to make notes on the Duhigg book - have renewed it at the library several times - but by now will have to re-read it first.
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Post by Lesley on Dec 19, 2013 23:50:59 GMT
This is such a joyous thread - I love it! Congratulations, awaywiththefairies.
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Post by Lesley on Dec 14, 2013 19:53:37 GMT
So sorry to hear that, Petra. Glad you've got her on your side - and that you're planning on fighting!
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Post by Lesley on Dec 11, 2013 9:36:36 GMT
Hear, hear, Mary. Just looked back at your initial post on this thread, Dan. You said Leaving out the {jaw dropping / stumbling on Adult ADHD on the WWW / Do these people know me} - moment I think that counts for something. You are entitled to a diagnosis by a specialist.
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