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Post by jan on Oct 25, 2013 20:27:31 GMT
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Post by jan on Oct 25, 2013 20:24:36 GMT
absolutely hate bloody christmas - dark , i'm usually suffering from sad and very depressed but have to try and pretend to be all jovial and happy , causes me so much stress as have never felt i am enough for my daughter as we don't have family and all films and adverts of huge families and so have always overcompensated with presents and got into debt !!! i'd be so happy if they just cancelled it - or moved it to spring or summer (or even beginning of autumn ) (sorry to hear about your friends letting you down x )
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Post by jan on Oct 24, 2013 6:45:57 GMT
doctor recommended DD get a sleep ap yesterday, but she didn'y know specifics apparently you put it under pillow and it senses when your moving or something and can tell when your getting your best sleep etc am confused when looked them up can anyone recommend one please
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Post by jan on Oct 23, 2013 9:03:43 GMT
Might it be an idea to start off with something like a week-long ADHD retreat during the summer? Find a field, put up some tents, relax, share knowledge ... naaaah - no offence kath xx - am full speed ahead with this best idea i've heard for years wanna move to portrugal and live in a yert alongside cheekybuddha - my mind is made up and so is hers we're on it big time see what you mean now thought you meant instead of not before if you see what i mean i meet myself coming back sometimes
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Post by jan on Oct 23, 2013 8:55:12 GMT
Advocacy is the direction I'm heading in. Have been meaning to get in touch with a mental health advocacy group that I almost volunteered for before, but not managed to do it, yet. Really want to get involved but am spending so much time self-advocating and advocating for my son at school, I don't seem to have the time. - - - i relate to this problem - - where do the hours go ? - - ooooo is that the time - shit i'm late --- - - - -oooo another post - - what i'd have more time if i didn't spend it all on here ? - - - -
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Post by jan on Oct 22, 2013 12:03:09 GMT
I find this all v interesting - so jan and c/Mary - what happens when you have a couple of days of late nights - is it hard to get back into a routine? Jan, the more I hear about your clock, the more I think I should get one.... I'm a confirmed night owl.... Tho I can get by on less sleep since starting mph I think.... no time to expand now should have left for work 10 min ago --- amgoing to be sooooo late will get back to you - just to say my clock has become my significant other (shame it doesn't do extras )
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Post by jan on Oct 22, 2013 11:50:13 GMT
it would be a place where children will thrive that's jist of cheekybuddha's idea - not everyone have to live there permenantly a - oooo can't think of word now - will come back and edit transient is all come up with at mo - but one 'i'm thinking is better than that - just can;t find it in my head - community for adhd 'ers a place to come and relax, re-charge, learn , teach, share - for as long as you feel the need
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Post by jan on Oct 22, 2013 11:24:26 GMT
Might it be an idea to start off with something like a week-long ADHD retreat during the summer? Find a field, put up some tents, relax, share knowledge ... naaaah - no offence kath xx - am full speed ahead with this best idea i've heard for years wanna move to portrugal and live in a yert alongside cheekybuddha - my mind is made up and so is hers we're on it big time
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Post by jan on Oct 22, 2013 10:44:17 GMT
It's sooo frustrating am I gonna get anything done on next 15 years?! yes you are - you going to move to portugal (hopefully i'l be with you ) build/buy a yurt @michael - you any good at carpentry? - them yurts are expensive , start an adhd retreat - be free - and possibly (just a thought ) run an alternative addiss conference next year (for those that prefer the out doors to dark , dismal , germ ridden hotels )
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Post by jan on Oct 22, 2013 10:32:13 GMT
what a lovely (and helpful ) post xx you are good for my spirit @cheekybuddha - you always uplift me - thank you so much for your lovelyness xx (love the 'woman of the world ' bit - am considering changing my user name in honour of you now but will have to wait till my tech man is up )
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Post by jan on Oct 22, 2013 10:26:33 GMT
Hi Cinebar and ditzynerd and anyone else.... Be great to hear a bit more about your interests or skills or circumstanceor any questions if you wanted to PM me, all I need is a couple of people and this could be off the ground potentially, Love to hear feedback from anyone about a hippie ADHD retreat Cheerio do you mind CB if i remind you to mention the drug/(poss alcohol) free side of it please - don't want to confuse anybody as in some peoples idea of 'hippie ' i'm already looking into fast tracking course to teach yoga xx havn't read links yet but am so fired up about this am already sortin finances you curing my S.A.D. babe xx
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Post by jan on Oct 22, 2013 10:13:26 GMT
No, don't think I have SAD atm - my probs all to do with new medication - though that seems to have settled since yesterday too.... Fingers crossed it stays like that xxx - - thought has occurred to me - totally foreign - as non western - totally diferrent cultural expectations - me and my big mouth me and my friend both unmedicated adhd and bipolar - - -have been wondering if its such good idea really (prob need to take a minder - @michael what shifts you working in nov ? ) hopefully the zyban (can't rem other name for it ) is working for the sad then for you - hope so XX
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Post by jan on Oct 22, 2013 9:42:11 GMT
Hi, to have some hand with few (maybe not few) issues. I but I think I would be happy
your in the best place (IMHO ) for help , support and advise with any or even all your issues probably, there's a wealth of experiene on here - we're all doing our best to manage our condition - whichever way we can . Anyway firs week on meds was superb, good mood, better work performance, better memory, less distracted, definitely better with my studies. Second week worse, lower mood (probably mixture of girly things, tiredness - I didn`t sleep enough and stress).my suggestions would be -try look back at first week - what did you do that helped? second week - what did you do that didn't ? did the weather make notable difference - might you possibly have S.A.D. ? (If you do there is thread on here about it with advice on dealing with symptoms - also helps having others to chat and identify with as like do with adhd . ) write it down - or you'l forget others on here seemed to have found it helpful to post a daily diary - (start your own thread ) monitoring their progress with their meds - it seems to help to see what dose is working etc and also others experimenting themselves can point out aids/hinderances they have found with their own journey on meds (and saves you having to trudge through the mega pages about meds on here already and then forget it all as soon as you finished ) I have job which I hate - to much responsibility, which I don`t want, to much contact with customers, to high expectation from boss with relatively nothing back. I applied for something different, started something different and landed with almost running business with lack of support from my boss. I dont really know what to do and I feel alone. I don`t know where to start to work again on myself with help of meds.
if doing a job that you hate - can you find something else ? know its not that simple sometimes - but (especially for us adhd'ers ) having to be somewhere you hate all day long is a living nightmare and is going to drag you down as for taking on too much responsibility - i totally relate to this - i found reading up on co dependency helped me with this - a lot - and i am much better at realising my own boundaries and recognising my own energy levels now - melody beattie writes excellent stuff on all this (its very relevant for relationships as well ). melodybeattie.com/codependency/also lots of members start threads on their work problems/issues - and support each other with these difficulties. Now here is idea what I should do. I have quite high self awareness, according to what psychiatrist said. But I want to know more. I want to strip down my ADHD to the parts and find out where and with what I have biggest problems. When I will recognize, understand and know them I will be able to deal with them. Maybe it is idyllic I so badly want to gain control over myself, and I`m irritated when I can`t.
think (safe to say )we all with you on this one check out the thread on mindfulness (third section down - dunno how to put link ) since attending the addiss conference i am convinced this is way forward with my adhd there is also a page on facebook to help with this book www.facebook.com/MindfulnessADHD and also this link for guy who did work shop on it at conference. mark bertin - www.developmentaldoctor.com also i would recommend TM (russell brand is very into this - but won't start going on about him now or i'l get distracted ) i have learnt it and found it very helpful for calming body and mind - its deccribed as being other end of same stick as mindfulness. www.tm.org/ I think so far that: lack of motivation is a big problem, but I use to find external one to keep me going. Emotions are allover the place. I can`t get them right - especially feeling guilty all the time, lack of self estime, constant need to be accepted and approved. I can sit and study or read book but I can`t finish things at work, I just don`t want to be here. At work I can put things aside and I have to force myself to start them, and fight with myself to finish them. again motivation is something we all struggle with - i find connecting with individuals that you particularly identify with on here has helped me address that - isn't majic solution but really helps for eg a member started a domestic godess challenge and 3 of us managed to de clutter our house , a member and i pm each other regularly to chat and just suss where we at, the mindfulness thread is helping those members to work through (snails pace but their getting there )- things like that
I would be happy to have questions, maybe they will open my eyes on problems which I haven`t seen my side but they are there. And maybe somebody have idea what next cos I feel quite lost.
hope some of this may be of help tesss - and that you will not feel so alone and lost now that you have found us i know for me (apart from triggering a new addiction ) this site has made an enormous difference to my life and my understanding and management of my adhd - and i feel genuine love for some that i have got to know and genuine affection for everyone on here . to nick the phrase off TORY TWAT call me dave - WE REALLY ARE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER xx
ps i'm not clever enough to put in relavent links as i go along so have to edit and come back 2 or 3 times so if your reading this not long after i've posted - come back and check again for the edits pss sorry if i have baraged you with too much info - think got bit carried away this morn - but that is another level that this site works so well on - we can focus on helping someone else - gets us away from ME, ME ME XX
Thx xxx
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Post by jan on Oct 22, 2013 8:22:55 GMT
how you doing fellow saddies ? i'm sitting here in front of my light box - (cat loves it as well ) yesterday was grey eh !? (in london ) jj read somewhere this morn you mentioning sitting in your misery think you said - know you havin probs wih meds - is it your sad as well? (ps rem to note menstrual cycle in your diary of meds effect -hormones aaagh they'l be lurkin there waiting to get you somehow i'm sure ) xx have a trip booked to marakesh in 2nd week of dec - hooray - have only managed to get abroad once in last 19 years so am very excited and is well cheapo as friend of friend has given us hotel rooms for nothing and flight only £120 - result - SUN SUN SUN here i come hoping (as advised by dr rosenthal ) this will alleviate my S.A.D. this winter and i wont turn into a walkin, talkin corpse - (as in dead inside - not thin - wouldn't mind being corpse like thin )
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Post by jan on Oct 22, 2013 7:58:26 GMT
contrarymary - do you know CB you write beautifully your descriptions of your thoughts always touch me and i'm right there with you step by step you have a natural flow and reading your words is like a calm , soothing journey - if you havn't already i believe you could make a living from writing - a definite talent xx
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Post by jan on Oct 22, 2013 7:37:16 GMT
I would love to go to a conference on that, I'm so frustrated, my sons dad is quite unreliable and works at weekends, if I was to ask him to have my son, then booked on he would cancel on me. It's sooo frustrating am I gonna get anything done on next 15 years?! oooo - shame - bit far was gonna volunteer my daughter for baby sitting services
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Post by jan on Oct 22, 2013 7:34:40 GMT
Yorkshire! I have a friend in Brighton I could probably stay with but I don't have the time, he is doing something in staffs is that any interest to you? X apologies - not with you there how do you mean ? just got an answer from brighton supp group - link for travel super market
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Post by jan on Oct 22, 2013 7:19:14 GMT
found it ( gettin good at this stuff i am ) It's hard for me to describe (as a non-expert). You also need to do it properly for it to work. Best thing to do is watch the author's video 'How to do EFT Tapping' - clairephayes.com/about-eft/ been meaning to do it myself since the post - another thing on the list
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Post by jan on Oct 22, 2013 7:08:08 GMT
all my life was late bird -came alive at night - like a zombie in mornins - hence worked in catering industry and pubs till my daughter was born, have become a morn person in the past year - love early mornins now - world is so still - (and devoid of people ) nature is so evident - peaceful - love watching the difference as seasons change - am not sure but think this is because my posh clock (dawn/sunset simulator ) has re trained my brain - but suppose could be hormone related as well as i have always been ruled by my hormones
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Post by jan on Oct 22, 2013 6:42:23 GMT
EMDR - Eye Movement Desensitising and reprocessing , often used for PTSD en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eye_movement_desensitization_and_reprocessing That conference looks great Jan, I have the book by him , although of course I haven't actually read it! I found EFT really good and would highly recommend. I would love to go to a conference on that, I'm so frustrated, my sons dad is quite unreliable and works at weekends, if I was to ask him to have my son, then booked on he would cancel on me. It's sooo frustrating am I gonna get anything done on next 15 years?! i thought that me (or someone else ) put a link of her talking you through how to do this but i couldn't find it last night i'l have another look - i want to go to this i sent a message to brighton adhd supp group asking if anyone knows of somewhere cheap to stay (twice ) - hint hint but no reply i am going to the omyoga show at weekend - what part of the country are you in ?
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Post by jan on Oct 21, 2013 20:29:39 GMT
hya abracadabra sorry forgot to say welcome yesterday in my haste at moaning about my result so - welcome (just the mention of spread sheets sends me into panic mode )
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Post by jan on Oct 21, 2013 19:44:16 GMT
By the way - what is EMdr? EVENTS & WORKSHOPS EFT AND MATRIX REIMPRINTNG @ MBS FESTIVAL BRIGHTON 01/11/2013 Karl Dawson will be presenting a 3 hour talk on EFT and Matrix Reimprinting on Friday 1st November 2013 from 3.30 - 6.30 pm For more details see the Brighton Mind Body Spirit Festival website www.mindbodyspirit.co.uk/brighton... READ MORE WOW - its £30 (on top of price for ticket to get in - i need a sugar daddy
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Post by jan on Oct 21, 2013 19:17:49 GMT
Hey, I was looking on Amazon for ADHD stuff like you sometimes do and I came across this - which says it helps reduce back pain and ADHD. Why did none of us think of it before? A cushion - it's so obvious. Junior Seat wedgeI dunno, man ... don't show doctor parker for fucks sake - she'l be telling my daughter to sit on it whilst eating her chocolate covered brazil nuts and reading percy thrower weekly
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Post by jan on Oct 21, 2013 10:30:01 GMT
haha a million lol how did you get that exchange rate about ?1.25 euros,to pound so about £12k engleeeesh pounds. bargain. wow you can say that again - though havn't worked out how much space that works out at - am excited - (about this - ) catch you later xx
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Post by jan on Oct 21, 2013 10:23:58 GMT
was it you or the other dan that mentioned something about this coming up the other day ? check whats his name now dan ooo cant rem and dunno if ive got time to check now really should be getting ready for work
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Post by jan on Oct 21, 2013 10:15:01 GMT
michael please don't encourage me to expand we related mun
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Post by jan on Oct 21, 2013 10:13:28 GMT
Thought I'd share . So now I'll start being anxious over all the stressful things going on in my sad little life aaaaw its good to share in it - and hopefully life not so sad now you found us keep on sharing xx
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Post by jan on Oct 21, 2013 10:10:05 GMT
Kids most definatley welcome They get all happy out on the nature, we would each spend a morning or afternoon perhaps with them doing ace creative nature stuff in the sunshine. Could Maybe offer childfree retreats, single parent retreats, parent retreats, with kids, male retreats, female retreat weeks etc The people we need will come, many people are affected by ADHD. So,e can offer support, some need support Those roles are fluid as well. Nice place here, bit small maybe But nice to dream a rainy day www.pureportugal.co.uk/listman/listings/l0222.htmlsounds perfect - havn't got time to look at other links yet - but ended up having just one more check on here and couldn't resist quick look how much is that in ponds (the 16000 euros mentioned - tried the converter underneath but did something wrong as usual ended up saying nearly a million - obviously that not right is it ? )
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Post by jan on Oct 21, 2013 9:04:24 GMT
broke a lot of my zips by lying on bed pulling them up with wire coat hanger another thing been meaning to do for years - boot sale with all my jeans got about 40 pairs in different sizes (not that i'm a hoarder or anything ) shame - cos one of my very few talents was patching jeans some of them can't even get over my knees now yep not a good idea or look walking round with zip open
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Post by jan on Oct 21, 2013 7:54:40 GMT
oooo i have fond memories of the days i used to be able to fit into a pair of jeans afraid its elasticated waists for me these days leggings all the way
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