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Post by daisypink on Aug 22, 2012 5:35:51 GMT
Haha - this is a great topic! Oooshiny - my Mum frequently calls me & my sister each other's name and has done for years (there are only us two siblings). However we do sound very alike apparently, so that may be one reason! Years ago my sister phoned in to Johnnie Walker's Radio 2 programme to take part in a quiz. One of the listeners to the show was the mother of a colleague of mine, who lives in Lancashire (we're in Scotland!) and had met me but didn't know I had a sister. That night, in her daily phone call to my colleague she remarked that she'd heard a woman on national radio who sounded exactly like me! Not ADHD related - but must just share a 'welcome to my world' moment. My lovely husband has Multiple Sclerosis which has affected his cognition as well as his mobility. Most mornings, he asks me what day it is, then I hear him asking the carers the same thing when they come in. Or he'll say 'It's Wednesday, and I'll reply 'No, Sunday'. The other morning when I was opening the curtains, I pre-empted his usual question by asking 'Well, do you know what day it is today?'.. In a wee small voice he replied tentatively 'Is it our anniversary......?'. LOL! ;D
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Post by daisypink on Aug 4, 2012 11:56:05 GMT
Lol, Shiny ;D
that's a favourite track of mine btw
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Post by daisypink on Jul 30, 2012 19:03:30 GMT
Thanks, Lottie. I'm feeling a lot better these days - maybe as a result of a tyrosine supplement, but mainly, I think, because of coming on here and realising I'm not alone in how I feel. I've been doing stuff and seeing people but pacing myself 'cos I get tired very quickly. Good to hear about that things are moving in the right direction for your wee girl Daisy x
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Post by daisypink on Jul 30, 2012 18:59:20 GMT
Happy Birthday, Mr Moderator. Glad you had fun at the Big Meet
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Post by daisypink on Jul 30, 2012 18:56:46 GMT
Good news, Lottie
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Post by daisypink on Jul 26, 2012 14:13:16 GMT
A Max Miller joke from 1936, courtesy of Paul Merton:
Husband 'Apparently that milkman of ours has made love to every single woman in the street bar one'.
Wife 'I bet it's that bl%%dy stuck up cow at number 54....'
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Post by daisypink on Jul 26, 2012 14:03:48 GMT
I had a follow-up appointment with the psych yesterday. Last time I went to the clinic,at the beginning of June I was in the throes of a bad depression, and not able to articulate my concerns about adult ADHD. However a few weeks ago I was able to explain my symptoms to my GP, and she said she's send a fax to the psychiatrist in advance of the next appointment. The clinic was running late yesterday, and when I was seen, it was by a different doctor from last time - the guy I was expecting to see 'had to leave suddenly'. This new doc was very pleasant, talked about my depressions, my experience on meds, asked about issues with my thyroid, and discussed ways of preventing a further lapse into depression in future. But when I raised my ADHD symptoms I got the same wall which I've encountered before (with two previous psychs: one last year and another a couple of years before that). I was feeling pretty tired by the time I saw him anyway (appt was at 4.00, it's a bit of a drive from home, I'd been kept waiting for about 30 mins and I've had an emotional few days) so I really wasn't able to be assertive about ADHD. Thankfully I've been in touch with a specialist recommended on here who can do a private assessment - and we're going to arrange that when he gets back from holiday next month.
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Post by daisypink on Jul 22, 2012 11:07:00 GMT
Every little helps
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Post by daisypink on Jul 22, 2012 11:05:53 GMT
Yup. And our car is an adapted one for husband's wheelchair - no boot - so can't even close the cupboard door and hide it all!
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Post by daisypink on Jul 22, 2012 11:02:20 GMT
Thanks, odat I got half the pile branches into the car last night - and took them to the dump this morning. I met a woman I know from work - who 'gets' me - hadn't seen her for ages 'cos I've been off sick. We spoke for a long time and because I know that her daughter was diagnosed with ADHD as a child I shared a bit of what I've been going through. Have phoned my friend to ask if her husband will come round with the trailer this afternoon to help me clear the rest of the garden stuff.
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Post by daisypink on Jul 21, 2012 19:53:27 GMT
Hi guys Just wanted to share a few thoughts. Since joining this forum I've had good days, which is great, because before that I had about 3 months of feeling very low. I've experienced a whole range of emotions, often in the space of a few hours, including - - relief at knowing I'm not alone, which is pretty amazing after over half a century of not being able to share with anyone that I wasn't quite 'in tune',
- hope for the future, after feeling pretty much total despair
- anger at being like this and frustration with not seeming to have any control over my executive functions
- grief for what might have been if I didn't have this kind of heid (Scots word for head )
- angst that nothing will change because I'll not get the right support
There have been tears - again something of a relief, because when I was on antidepressants I felt completely numb. There's also been laughter ;D - at just how bonkers I can be sometimes. And today I spent all afternoon and early evening doing gardening - which was great, because I haven't had the energy or motivation to do that in a long time. Typically I went a bit crazy - mwah ha ha - with the secateurs, and the grass is now covered in piles of branches which I will have to get into the car tonight cos rain is forecast tomorrow. The brown bin is completely full so it will a trip to the recycling centre in the morning. My son looked out of the window and shook his head - commenting later that I do nothing for weeks 'then pure power it for a few hours'! I apologized for having been so low and down for a number of weeks, but he told me that there was no need to say sorry 'You're my mum, and I love you'..... Words can't really convey how good it is to feel like me again today - and to feel that life is worth living. So thanks everyone - I think I may have found my mojo! - Yeah, baby!
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Post by daisypink on Jul 20, 2012 20:18:22 GMT
Sounds very similar to my OH, in the days before his MS robbed him of his lovely personality. Patient, kind, good fun. And he brought me breakfast in bed every morning. Sadly he hasn't been able to walk for 10 years so that's a distant memory. But of course there were some days back then when I was pretty darned wonderful - so like you, lisablue, I reckoned he was very lucky! And on the holiday front - I had big plans for a fab holiday with my son this year: booked flights in January to the States in June, got the passports renewed, made arrangements to meet up with our friends' daughter when we arrived, then stay with another good friend who's been inviting us over for years. We were going to spend time in Washington and New York. I was so excited. Our first proper holiday in years. But in April I knew I wouldn't be able to go. My friend was phoning, leaving messages and emailing about the arrangements - and I was 'lalala not listening'. Eventually had to 'fess up that I wasn't able to go. I just did not have the energy and motivation to get organised and go - and I knew I would not be good company. In the past I've gone away when I've been feeling like that and it was a nightmare (and that was only for a few days!). I just want to hide at home when I'm like that.
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Post by daisypink on Jul 20, 2012 9:36:58 GMT
;D take your waders! It's a bit like T in the Park this year - my son was so looking forward to it - and he's used to camping in the rain at rock festivals (he's Scottish after all!) but even he was defeated by the amount of mud - and the DJ tent getting washed away put the tin hat lid on it! (as my friend would say). After one night of camping he texted and asked me to pick him up a day early......
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Post by daisypink on Jul 20, 2012 8:26:24 GMT
At least I didn't pay full price for it - got it from a second hand seller on Amazon, but it's in pristine condition (probably sold on by an ADHDer ). Was it you, Lonely??!! I can get really p'eed ticked off with Facebook - Happy Family holiday snaps can make me snivel if I'm a bit down already. And 'Life is good' when mine is not makes me wanna hurl the laptop out the window! Still, I haven't resorted to posting an inappropriate reply! Just as well there's not a 'DISLIKE!!' button.... PS Lonely - I will have that k d lang song in my head all day now. Just as well I like it! Oooh - I could start a new thread - ADHD anthems...... (Oh, Lord - it's actually 'Where have all the flowers gone' that's now playing in my befuddled head - 'When will I ever learn? When will I ever.....')...
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Post by daisypink on Jul 20, 2012 7:49:48 GMT
I think I need to step back and do what I want not stress over feeling I have to do what others expect ..I think I shall spend tomorrow doing my thing and others will just have to deal with it in there own ways .. Even if I tried to explain my Social issue I'd still be the bad guy so .. I'm doing what I feel is best for me!! Xx Good for you - hopefully you'll feel better now for having made that decision and taken control. Your 'duck out of water' quip reminds me of difficult family gatherings in the past. I'm talking about my husband's family - who are even more dysfunctional than mine My two sisters-in-law (husband's sister & husband's brother's wife) could reduce me to the shy, awkward kid I used to be. No matter how hard I tried to get on with them and fit in, I knew they didn't like me! Brought up to be a people pleaser, I spent years putting up with them - until I decided enough already! Helped by my son, who aged about 15 said to me 'Mum, why do you care what they think of you? They're horrible people!'... Have a good day doing your thang! x
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Post by daisypink on Jul 19, 2012 13:50:47 GMT
I've been seduced once again by a self-help book. This one is called 'Organizing from the inside out: the foolproof system for organizing your home, your office, your life.'
I read about it on another forum - one for women with adhad - where it was recommended in a post. I looked it up on Amazon - ooh it's so easy to buy with that one click, isn't it.....
It arrived today - and has way too much text for my liking! As usual I'm looking for a quick fix, but I'm already put off by the layout, the size of text and the fact that you seem to have to do a lot of organizing in your head before you can even start. For example, analyzing the causes of your clutter and scoring your 'external realities'. Too much like hard work for me! I out the book aside and made a hot chocolate (mmmm chocolate).....
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Post by daisypink on Jul 19, 2012 12:52:06 GMT
Hi - when I go through a spell of depression I feel unable to go to places and be with people - yet when I'm not depressed I love company and going out. Withdrawal is a significant symptom of depression - and depression goes along with ADHD for many of us!
For the wedding tomorrow, maybe try and focus on what you're going to wear - spend time thinking about accessories and make up , and try and enjoy making yourself look nice. I know that's hard when you're feeling low. And when you're at the wedding, and with other people, get them to talk about how they're doing - as has been said on here before, people like to talk about themselves, so that's a way of not having to say much yourself!
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Post by daisypink on Jul 19, 2012 12:19:32 GMT
Great letter, Lottie - well laid out and with good evidence to back up your statements! I can relate to the 'late developer' concerns in adolescence (as well as many of the other things you've said). It makes a very compelling case for referral - hopefully other members who've hit a stumbling block like this will advise on how to go forward.
Best Daisy x
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Post by daisypink on Jul 19, 2012 12:09:10 GMT
Looks like fun ;D Would love to come on 28th, but it's a bit far from Fife! Daisy x
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Post by daisypink on Jul 19, 2012 8:30:13 GMT
It's a great video, thanks for posting the link! What I'd like to see is a video of how to cope with those annoying traits which get in the way of getting through the day! If only there were a quick fix rather than strategies which rely on organisation, motivation and actually reading (or even seeing) the things you've written down......
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Post by daisypink on Jul 17, 2012 12:16:21 GMT
...that lovely, shiny new bike is still in the shed six months after you put it there (without having ridden it meantime) next to the old bike which was second hand when you bought it 15 years ago, but you're keeping it just in case someone you know might need spare bike parts..... Also it has a comfy saddle which might be better than the one on the new bike, should you ever get round to trying it.... When you embark on a much-needed decluttering session, only to create even more mess because you get distracted by old mags, photos, letter, books you forget which pile/box/bag is 'ditch' 'recycle' 'charity shop' etc you go off to reward yourself with a cuppa (for having started - cos you never finish!) but then forget all about it and hours later go back to the room with the mess and remember your good intentions, but by now you've gone off the whole notion.....
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Post by daisypink on Jul 16, 2012 22:53:23 GMT
Hi cakedreams - I really appreciate your helpful reply. Could you pm me the details of the guy you saw, please.
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Post by daisypink on Jul 16, 2012 21:56:31 GMT
Hi there: I'd like some advice on accessing private treatment in Scotland. Although not yet diagnosed, I've had ADD since childhood but only realised the reasons for always feeling the 'odd one out' when I started looking into ADHD about 5 years ago because of my then adolescent son's problems with concentration. Although I developed coping mechanisms over the years, I've found that since I hit my 50s (aaargh - I can't be that OLD surely? ) it's becoming increasingly difficult to cope. My situation is compounded by being a carer to my severely disabled husband - he has a degenerative condition which has become increasingly worse over the past 10 years. I've been back and forth to the GP over several years and have seen a couple of psychiatrists over the last 3 years -but the focus is always on the depression which I've struggled with on and off since my teens. I've never been able to get anyone to take the ADD symptoms seriously until my last visit to the GP - however reading these boards has made me aware what a long and tortuous process it can be to get anywhere in the NHS - and to be honest I feel that time is running out. I've reached burnout this time and am ceasing to function So any advice on obtaining private treatment - and a rough idea of cost - would be most welcome. I live in Fife btw. Cheers!
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