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Post by blaze on Jul 26, 2016 8:53:11 GMT
Having looked out my old copy of the explosive child to refresh sone coping skills i thought it maybe helpful to share some books/resources that help with kids with adhd (or other ndds) as these are considered genetic (& maybe this should be a *sticky* so easily accessable for others) & anyone can add any that they find helpful br] so off the top of my head
the explosive child Highly senstive children raising your spirited child active altert child out of sync child & out of sync child has fun non violent communication & respectful parents respectful kids growing up in trust parenting without reward or punishment uncondional parenting playful parenting
aha parenting website
if it helps i have kids who are/will be assessed for spd/asd/pda/adhd & above stuff helps some
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Post by blaze on Jul 14, 2016 8:42:55 GMT
I dont think we are heading for *nazi brittain* either, i did say that i think. Its just such a shift in what is publicly acceptable, that it is ok to not vote for a campaign that uses the same images hitler did without speaking out against nazi imagry. Leave voters may not be actively racist but they didnt fight against it either, not this time atleast
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Post by blaze on Jul 13, 2016 19:53:58 GMT
So stuck back in this place of upset right now
tm!?!?!? She was fkimg responsible for tje *go home* bus that drove round london & refuse asylum to sex traficed children who couldnt/wouldnt recount all the details of all of their abuse, not even taking truamatic memory loss into account because they had to PROOVE that they had been unwilling participantsdespite being CHILDREN & all the drs/police evidence. She is fking satan
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Post by blaze on Jun 30, 2016 15:50:12 GMT
Totally of topic op, sorry!
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Post by blaze on Jun 30, 2016 15:39:02 GMT
I dont know if it was legally protected in england prior to 2010 act. In scotland the law is way better- it is actually a criminal offense to ask a mother to stop breastfeeding or to leave a public place because she is breastfeeding- prosecuted with a fine upto 10k if i temember correctly, & it applies to formula feeding also. We moved just as the girls were turning two so they mostlyjust nursed at hm by then so maybe i would have had many arguements if they had been babies when we were i england.
i fed anywhere and everywhere, and tandam which never works out discreetly! I figured it was way better than their extreem tandam screams : ) so people could just learn to look elsewhere of they didn't like it
oh and re the guy glaring- i think the main issue is often how sexualised breast are in this country, they are their for men to look at not for their biolgical design. We have shockingly low bf rates in this country, the lowest in the developed world, & half that of the america despite the uk having midwife based care and much longer mat leave- both of which the WHO/UNICEF baby friendly initiative identify as best for siccessful bf. I am 100% for women doing what they want with their own bodies, but u wush that were free of decades of influence of page 3 etc
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Post by blaze on Jun 30, 2016 13:20:29 GMT
Op it isn't my place to tell you how to handle racism-i have never experienced it- & i know if in the moment with kids keeping them safe & calm comes first, but certainly with your first example you don't have to just ignore it, or teach your lo that ignoring is best. You could tell the bus driver & ask for support- i aware you shouldn't have to and am not victim blaming by suggesting you could take action- as the bus company will most definately have an equalities policy. The bus driver should step in- and if not following up with a complaint would be a valid option because the driver would most certainly be acting against the companies equality policy- and i guess theres the option of the police. verbal racist abuse is illegal
i know it isn't that simple, and i am not telling you to do this, but suggesting that there is another option rather than ignoring. You could also simply retort saying that is racist or that is illegal under the equalities act or something similar
different issue, but also another protected group under the equalities act is mothers- which extents to include the right to breast feeding in public, with protection from abuse, and the right to be treated the same as any other customer ie- not told to nurse baby in the disabled toilet while mum at next table bottle feeds openly. I often had simple phrases like do you allways break the law so casually? For if challenged when bf my twins out and about. As it was while i got strange looks i never had any comments (i must have the dont fking mess with me look permenantly stamped on my face)
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Post by blaze on Jun 30, 2016 11:00:03 GMT
Hi Blaze. The PDA Soc website is generally so bloody miserable (well, reading the forum comments). I feel very sorry for anyone with PDA who stumbles across it. What is it making it miserable? everyone seems v negative about evetything, but especially about their kids & future etc (& their kids all seem to have a teeny % of the problems mine do)
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Post by blaze on Jun 30, 2016 10:04:02 GMT
Does everyone know about this? Wearing a safety pin to show support for anyone feeling unwelcome or under attack from racism following the referendum?
I know theres being plenty of criticism already, that only indy/gardian readers will know what they mean yadda yadda, but it is being heavily shared on social media & may mean something to someone so just wanted to mention it
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Post by blaze on Jun 27, 2016 19:39:13 GMT
As it wont stop repeating in my brain at mo..... & i cant remember such things as logins so cant use other forums & cant say it face to face because i cry so much i cant get the words out
And i am just asking for safwty to say this, not looking for disscuasion or advice or anything, i just need to say it, get it out in the hope that will be it done, or atleast that the strength of emotion behind will calm to managable levels
(I have a huge load on my plate at mo so maybe misplaced feelings, but, well i allsays have this much pressure & have never felt this way about politics.....)
So everytime i hear people complaining about i voted leave but i am not a racist & oh poor poor me because all you nasty remainers lumping me in with them (paralhrased ofcourse) ALL that keeps playingmy mind is that there were nazis who weren't racist, who supported hitler because they agreed with the economic policies & feared for the stability of the economy and the future of their kids the way things were going then, and look what happened.
There wasn't ever merely two choices, if so many leavers weren't racists why didn't they stop the xenephobic campaign??? Why didnt they start petitions about leave is right but the racism isnt??? Why didnt they spoil their ballot papers and write explaination letters to mps & newpapers about hkw they believe in leave but wont stand for this racism. Hold protests or whatever other political ways to voice opinion without throwing in with nf & his nazi posters (shd be a hate crime in itself) & effectively let racism win!?!?!?
I keep thinking about how nazi germany was taught in history at school- how hitler & a few v evil sickos gained power & did what they did because no one sooke up/stopped them. How it was all many nazis followed hitler because they were duped into believing jew et al were the root of the problem, then how many werent racist or evil but allowed racism by voting for what they believed was best for the economy etc,
& i cant keep thinking if this us how we will be described in time, that most leavers werent racist but they threw their lot in with those whp were because it was best for the economy, & they go saying i am not racist & all i think on repeat is that tgere were nazis who would have said the same.
& i dont say it ifcourse bevause it feels a horridly unfair thing to say. But then i wounder if that means i &other *pc* remainers will go down in history as lumped in with the leavers because well not speaking out against those who allowed the racist lots to win are effectively just as responsible for *letting* racism be the norm
Fk this isnt terribley cohearant but i hope someone understands. It all just seems so wrong, they may not ve racist but they supported racists, & i may not be racist but i am not challemging every *i am not racist but leaver* & i just cant help thinking that nazi germany was allways disscussed as coming about the same way, that non rasist nazis (never thought i would type that) enabled hitlers genocide by supporting him even though they may not have agreed with ths racist part & non nazis allowed his genocide by not speaking up enough. And, while i would never make a flipant commonet about how some nazis werent racist at the point when leavers say they didnt vote on immigration reasons, i have part of me woundering constantly if thats my place in history, that i will have allows whatever cultural shifts there (are alreasy starting) by not challanging that as clearly as i feel, by moderating my horror that anyone would not be rasist but chppse the racist side, by being pc & considerate of respecting their right to political freedom (but BUT what about voter responsibility to others, those now becoming victims, those protected under the equalities act, who it turns out arnt really protected at all.....)
Sorry, done, rant over. Just needed to get it out safely before i spurt it at someone in reality. & i get some may take this as catosraphising & i am not thinking this is the start if the end or anything, just that feels like such a whopping great backward slap for human rights & even if the rasist attacks coming are **only** **minor** in comparison to the hollocaust (& i woud never choose to compare such things, but if anyone is going to the oh dont bring up nazis yadda yadda) it is just that it feels like such a huge backward shockingly uncaring step to take where non racists vote for a rasist campaign & when the leavers go i am not rasist the said several nazi line pops up in my head & wont go away.
So thank you for letting me rant. I am actualy much calmer than i may appear in this post, just needed to get this thiught out safely so it doesnt negatively effect the hugely important stuff i have going on at mo
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Post by blaze on Jun 1, 2016 18:02:29 GMT
Hi Blaze. The PDA Soc website is generally so bloody miserable (well, reading the forum comments). I feel very sorry for anyone with PDA who stumbles across it. We had an absolute nightmare - like take the worst you ca think of and multiply it tenfold - with CAMHs so I sympathise with all you're going through. If you want to chat about this offline at all, feel free, just for the ear of someone who has the t-shirt. Sounds like you're having a pretty hard time of it. Quick question though if you have been through camhs- after ignoring the referal & our phone calls they are now claiming the girls have been put up to urgent & sending a psychologist round to see us. I am thrilled they are sending someone to us- but also suspicious of it all too. Is this a sign of them taking us seriously or are they likely to fob us off claiming they did all they could by coming to us? Our gp is great & used to work for camhs so i am guessing it's her threats that got us an apooint (& she agrees 100% with adhd/pda/spd which i understand is rare to have a gp agree & back parents up) but still i feel v uncertain about camhs motives somehow
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Post by blaze on Jun 1, 2016 17:40:03 GMT
I home ed and love it. But I worry for the future as my kids are small currently and need more of my attention yet it's hard to focus on their needs when I have work as well. But I write curriculums and make resources and my ceativingty is a great tool as we can turn almost any occurance into a learning opportunity. MMof you have any questions regarding home ed activities or such please feel free to ask. I used to work I schools, as a nanny, as teacher and student and I love learning. I also fully believe that home ed is the best way forward for most children these days. if i had one kid i would prob be pro home ed, or if i had two different ages (& reasoning/understanding skill levels) my pair are hugely oppositional with each other. While they likely have same underlying.problems they present differently. Fb needs social interaction however tough & confusing & stressful she finds it- she needs the validation she gets from others (she is breath takingly beautiful, funny, dramatic, natural leader so others tend to adore/idolise her) & sje gets bored easilt so she needs new and stimulating exleriemces- however much she can't cope with them. Sb is generally easy going if left to her own devises- while she obviously bemefits from socialinteraction if handled carefuley she genuinely is happier on her own at home pottering about & finds going out hugely overwhelming & others attension (id twins so equally stunning) overwhelming. They conflict massively with each other- to get sb out i normally need to bribe her to bump her over her anxiety (about goimg out & sensory issues if getting ready) which is easy enough in theory as she is a greatful kid who is pleased with anything new. Fb would happily go out without bribery on her own, but ofcourse she is domineering controling kid who wants what her sis has- so she will require the exact right toy from kinder egg to prevent huge melt down (which is really related to how depressed & anxious she is about the school *failure* at present. But we go round in circles like this- judging what bribe is worth us getting out (i need this also- fb is like myclone in alot of ways) & how many days a wk i can cope in the house with whinging & demanding to go now- while so exhausted with my own health problems. Some weeks are fine- a day of down time, a play date at ours, a play date or park & coffee shop with friends & theur kids, one day out to libary/museum/parketc & one day to forest school but tbh i am beyobd fking exhausted & resent having to be this switched on all the time. Am in the process of trying to sort a tutor on day a wk, a baby sitter for one morning so i can get a break & play thrrapist (all far too busy) all of which i will pay for- as waiting for lea to sort at home provision would be a lost cause. There is allways a conflict between their needs-before even looking at mine- & i allways have one unhappy either falling to pieces in v loud fashion or bottling it up which lead us to this in first place. It'sa mess.
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Post by blaze on Jun 1, 2016 17:20:44 GMT
Hi Blaze. The PDA Soc website is generally so bloody miserable (well, reading the forum comments). I feel very sorry for anyone with PDA who stumbles across it. We had an absolute nightmare - like take the worst you ca think of and multiply it tenfold - with CAMHs so I sympathise with all you're going through. If you want to chat about this offline at all, feel free, just for the ear of someone who has the t-shirt. Sounds like you're having a pretty hard time of it. that's kind thanks, and i may take you upon it. But tbh i am so so sick of discussing all this & listing yhe details for so many different people- i feel like a broken record, i feel like i am boring my friends (all of whom tend to be of the opinion that i am super mum & my girls the centre of the world) so it's like no one really gets any of it & i would really like to enjoy something about parenting again rather than discussing all of the worries
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Post by blaze on May 20, 2016 13:27:18 GMT
I don't really have time for decent reply- sorry-but for pda info look up the elizabeth newton centre, she's the person who named it & done most of the research & does most of the diagnosis in this country.
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Post by blaze on May 18, 2016 4:40:59 GMT
Agree intentions are gd, which is why i signed it, but soooo frustrating when this language is used by outsiders never mind *one of us*
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Post by blaze on May 17, 2016 14:58:00 GMT
Thanks for the link. I really dislike the language used though- the quote about 'lack of moral' or something & refering to adhd as a behavioural disorder- ndd is techniqually correct but disability would be a more effective term within this type of petition.
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Post by blaze on May 17, 2016 14:30:09 GMT
Moved on and not moved on in other ways ; ) very much in the midst of things & my own adhd is a massive challenge when dealing with all this also. Been dealing with healthcare side of stuff mostly, & fk facing pda assessment for both ontop of camhs (who are being a bitch) & the pda site is so depressingly scary so just trying to stay in the present of things, tell myself its not forever & having oh deal with alot of the meetings etc dla given at much higher rates than i expected though which feels like validation atleast can't really face going into details here, just needed to know if other adhders find 24/7 kids as intense & suffocating as i do, & feel as overwhelmed by the pressure of it all (tbf i identify with a fair bit of their pda) but either i structure questions wrongly or others answer things i havn't asked, either way not finding what is needed here. (& actually that's a challenge anywhere as the combo of twins,5 yrolds, pda/adhd/asd/spd plus my adhd & ed/hmjs, no family etc etc isn't something comparable i guess) but today was fun day out, & tomorrow is play with their best friend, so just one day at a time Hi blaze. I was just wondering if your situation had moved on at all and what you've decided to do? Also wondering how old your child(ren) are/is? My daughter's almost eight and has been having a right old time of it since preschool. We ideally just want a nice inclusive, proactive school, but everything's a fight. She does have an EHCP (great fun securing that was!) but it feels like it's made limited difference beyond having the school accept what we say at face value. (She is also a frequent school refuser.) Better go. Have another meeting at the school in half an hour.
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Post by blaze on Apr 6, 2016 6:51:58 GMT
interesting, esp around what terms mean on a myers briggs analysis i have gone from being an extrovert (when younger/healthier) and am now an x - rather than an introvert or extrovert - getting my energy from both within/quiet time/solitude AND without/socialising/sparking off other people could we have a bit more info pls? I would be intresested also in this. I know jung defines extrovert/introvert as terms of how people get energy. Extroverts are replenished by spending time with people, introverts need time alone as down time to replenish their energy reserves. He did alot of research & found 3/4 of people are extroverts, that extroverts & introverts have diffeting brain structures & while introverts take longer to learn thimgs they have a deeper capacity for knowledge. I know 3/4 of highly senstive people are introverts, & hsp have high cross over with all dds. I never really understood these terms before i leared this. I am sociable, tactile, need people & het hyperactive around people so others label me as extroverted. But i allways knew i needed alone time to function & that i only coped so long being around people, however much i do well with it & am generally popular & friendly- it just didn't seem to match up with my need to be alone. Not sure how much other definitions varry-i just can't remember anymore. But this one makes so much sense to me.
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Post by blaze on Apr 5, 2016 21:05:21 GMT
I think new members posts get checked or something. You should beable to see it tomorrow- i think
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Post by blaze on Apr 5, 2016 21:03:35 GMT
What definitions of extroversion/introversion are you using?
Using jungs work on extroversion/introversion i am a introvert but combined type. But by general publics' usage of these terms i suspect i would be an extrovert as i am v sociable & tactile
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Post by blaze on Apr 5, 2016 20:54:52 GMT
Might not be much help or practical but 1-ear defenders, 2- melatonin prescription & set bed time routine ( including daily exercise/medatation etc) can't be any real help with 3 but it is tougher to cope with this when tured/stressed
gd luck with diagnosis
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Post by blaze on Apr 5, 2016 20:47:27 GMT
I think anyone can be a bully to be honest - certainly anyone can be perceived to be a bully (intent or lack thereof being the key?).
I can see both sides of the argument here (discussion, if you want to be polite, but it looks like an argument to me ).
definately just a disscussion to me- i tend to be totally straightforward about any issues, lack of impulse control and all that, so confrpntation isn't an issue. But just because i woould be upfront about it doesn't mean i am not aware that many others would have a variety of reasons for struggling with that, amd certainly in the workplaces i have beem in this comes up in supervision
nvc is excellent read for explaining the harm created by judgemental terms
On the one hand, from a personal POV, if someone had a problem with me I'd much rather they came to me about it. I hate being pulled up in front of the boss like a naughty school child, and dealing with the situation one and one means I'm clearer on what I've done wrong, and it can be resolved quicker.
On the other hand, if I had a problem with someone, I'd find it much easier to speak to my boss about it, because I kinda hate confrontation. Plus verbal communication is definitely not my forte, so I'd probably end up insulting/upsetting them by way of miscommunication.
I don't think there's ever going to be a concrete answer to this sort of problem - it very much varies with the circumstances.
Personally I think a combined approach would be best - organise a meeting, with the boss mediating, where Person A can discuss their issue with Person B. Person A is a lot less likely to go into 'rant' mode or be overtly rude with both their boss and their colleague there, and the boss can judge for himself how severe the problem is - offer impartial advice etc. At least that way it feels less like being sent to the principal, and more like a discussion between equals on how to resolve an interpersonal problem. Discourages a 'mob' effect, and Person B can (as in Merrial's case) bring up any issues they have in return (such as feeling bullied or ostracized).
But that's a personal opinion - might work for some situations, might not for others. And you might all just think I'm wronger than a wrong thing lol.
And tati - OP (as far as I'm aware) stands for 'Original Post-er' replied in post
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Post by blaze on Apr 5, 2016 20:39:15 GMT
The judgement in kindergarden behaviour is not helpful, but you appear to be misding the point so i will just leave it. Claiming how things should be when reality is actualy v flawed-amd v immeduate- doesn't help terribley much either. There are some nasty bulloes out there but mostly it's not that simple & generalisef judgement detract from that- ime. quote author=" tati" source="/post/98092/thread" timestamp="1459850076"] That doesn't relate much to wide ranging social situations. You called it kindergarden behaviour- using name calling/insults demeans those needing to seak that help. And they very well may have poor social understanding themselves- it's like you are expecting *the other* person to be compleately clear on why someone is making them uncomfortable/being difficult to work with/etc- lots of people wont have those skills, and or they may feel too intimidated to do so. Other people arn't perfect either. I agree with what you say Blaze, they need help. They have the right to get it. But having the the manager trying to solve the issue, without having the skills, remains the worst way to face the problem. If the situation is serious like the ones that you refer to, they need professional help, not a manager that calls the "bad guy" in his office without even being able to get (and give) a hint on what's happened. The person who manage psychological problems has to be professionally prepared. Or, in case of mobbing, it's a crime and has to be reported to the police... and social skills or not, you still need to know what happened. A prepared person can do it, but improvisation can even make it worse. I don't know, maybe it's that I am not a native English speaker and I'm not explaining myself. On the other hand, if it isn't as serious as the ones you refer, then a confrontation remains the best thing. And this should be what the managerment should encourage as a first choice: dialogue between human beings. In any case, calling someone in the office being like "we don't know what you did but you did something wrong" is the worst thing for all the parts involved. There is no excuse. What happened to Merrial should not happen, there are a million of ways of facing the problem, without neither silencing nor hurting anybody.. Also, in this topic we are not talking about a single frightened person going to the Manager, but about a bunch of co-workers. How is it possible that none of them has been able to give at least an example, something specific. I really have doubt, in this case, about what is going on. The only thing I am sure about is that if the manager causes someone to go home wondering what she has done and crying, he/she is doing it wrong. For the "kindergarten behaviour thing... first, I'm demeaning the behaviour of that group of people. Not even the persons themselves, but the way they have behaved in this case. It looks strange to me that nobody between them has thought about speaking to Merrial before going straight to the boss. And that nobody has been able to give an explanation. If the whole workplace has social issues, or poor communication skills, it seems to me that that place really need some kind of professional counseling, for everyone, boss included. There are professionals who do it "on demand", and even if it has a cost, it is worth it. Second, this is a venting board, and Merrial's experience really made me angry. A lot. Defining that specific behaviour of the Merrial's coworkers as "kindergarden behaviour", I didn't think would be an issue. [/quote]
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Post by blaze on Apr 4, 2016 14:56:28 GMT
That doesn't relate much to wide ranging social situations. You called it kindergarden behaviour- using name calling/insults demeans those needing to seak that help. And they very well may have poor social understanding themselves- it's like you are expecting *the other* person to be compleately clear on why someone is making them uncomfortable/being difficult to work with/etc- lots of people wont have those skills, and or they may feel too intimidated to do so. Other people arn't perfect either. This kind of situations reminds me of a story from Paul Watzlawick's book "The situation is hopeless, but not serious (the pursuit of unhappiness)" Imagine if this guy was at work instead of a neigborhood, and he had the possibility to go to a manager, telling "that guy is rude and don't want to lend me the hammer and bla bla bla.... ". In this sense, I agree that the manager's involvement would be useful, but the last thing I would expect from that manager is to call the other person in his office, instead of trying to get a clear explanation of of what the supposed rude behaviour was. And this would most likely not even involve (and uselessly distress) the other person at all. I'm not talking about silencing or not supporting people here... but just about not encouraging a paranoia epidemic in the working environment.
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Post by blaze on Apr 4, 2016 14:48:37 GMT
When pregnant with twins my appitite went thrpugh the roof, after the hypermesis anyways- & 3500calories per day is recommended for twin pregnamcy so that was good- but breatfeeding hunger is just beyond imaginable- i ate so so much!
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Post by blaze on Apr 2, 2016 6:09:33 GMT
It's allways worked well in many workplaces i have been in, but maybe it's a difference in job type as we required frequent supervisions & debriefings. Comfrontations are only healthy if people have the emotional skills to manage that- encoraging them without help causes problems which is why people would go to seniors. It isn't helpful if managers arn't specific but if that's all they have to go on from staff then they don't have much choice. Most these things are persoective anyways-it isn't often that one person is clearly rude anyways- often one person will have one perspective & another an equally valid but opposing one- they both have the right to gain support from seniors about how this effects their working experirnce- that's normal. If seniors hererepeatedly that it's inevitable that it gets brought up. Silencing people & preventing them accessing support frommanagment isn't ever going to be helpful
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Post by blaze on Apr 2, 2016 5:55:49 GMT
There's also disability rights uk. & you could check local advocacy groups & see if your local social work have a welfare right dept- when i worked in mh in scotland we used this dept to do all s/u's dla forms/appeals/support at appointments etc, but i don't know if it works the same anymore
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Post by blaze on Apr 1, 2016 14:08:43 GMT
Interesting topic, I partly relate to this. Or maybe totally... but the way I face the problem is similar to Babble's one. I simply don't speak unless I know the person very well. This is a form of self ostracising and it works very well, in the sense that I've never got called for rudeness by a manager, but neither I developed all those friendships and social networks that I see between the co-workers. Except for the very last workplace I was in. Reading the other ones experience with being called in the manager's office really makes me angry. Seriously, why on earth they don't say what you told or did to get that accusation? They seem rude to me, and this sort of remarks are really totally useless. What are you supposed to do after that, if you have no idea of what you did wrong? I've faced this (not in the workplace, fortunately), and the few times that the person really made the effort to tell me what was wrong, it actually helped... either to improve myself or to ignore that person's opinions. Ad last but not least, the fact that they went to the boss instead of telling you directly, sound like kindergarten behaviour to me. sometimes it can be hard for people (us too no doubt) to put a finger on what the specific things are- sometimes it's tone of voice, looks, subtle non verbal behaviour etc that negative effect the atmosphere & make people feel uncomfortable & dismissed most workplaces would actively encorage employees to come forward to the senior staff with any problems. Some people arn't confident at handling conflicts, or confronting others, that doesn't mean they shouldn't speak up, & it's managents job to help with these things. People speaking up may well have their own social struggles, asd or mh problems. Or it's maybe minor things that don't bother anyone enough to actively speak up but maybe routinely come up within supervisions etc from many so build up enough for supervisers to say something. I am sure plenty of times it will be peoplebeing price twunts but there maybe lots & lots of perfectly valid reasons for colleges to do this, not kindgarden behaviour at all.
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Post by blaze on Mar 30, 2016 16:05:48 GMT
How incredibley hard life is at mo
I have so much pressure, so much mpre to come, am constantly in limbo, everything that helped before doesn't come close anymore, am not enjoying any aspect of life really, and it is really really really hard. It just allways seems to get harder, and i am now coping badlywith it (i am a real coper normally-stubbornly so, although i am not strong, just stubbornly hang in there) & have tones of decent support (but no family to help like most peolle seem to have) so it's not like accessing support will help any.
i know it's all relative, i do, & i know there are plenty who have worse going on, but despite that i just allways find (feel-because i know it's not necessarily the xase rationally speaking) i have such a tougher deal than many & right now it's fking tougher than ever. & looks like it's going to get rougher.
I am just having a really really hard time right now.
I just needed to write that down somewhere, that's all.
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Post by blaze on Mar 29, 2016 2:07:19 GMT
Agree blaze . If parents are reluctant, criminal, AWOL, deceased, downright obstructive or just indifferent to an adult's diagnostic needs, then this shouldn't necessarily preclude a diagnosis. I think many NHS centres are recognising this, and as your experiences suggest, have no choice ultimately but to find inclusive, non-discriminatory ways towards accurate diagnoses. I'm sure mind mapping of brain activity will do it quickly for future generations as scientists and neurologists find a way to compare brain images of individuals to known physiological markers for ADHD. if it helps op i have had no trouble gettimg two adualt dx in two v differebt areas, one local psych one adhd specialist clinic, & neither batted an eye lid when i said i hadn't had contact with bio family since 15 & no school reports etc. They asked me some questions as to what i was like as a kid but not many. No issye was made of it at all.
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Post by blaze on Mar 29, 2016 1:56:51 GMT
I never actually knew we had a shout box (attension span is too poor to notice ; )
But i like the idea
fricken kids have been bouncing all night- 'mummy mummy i LIKE you!' 'NO i like mummy' 'no you can't like mummy, i like mummy' etc etc etc
Had adorable convo with sbt the other day- she had teeny last yrs summer dress on with wellies, refused trousers to go out in the rain but agreed to coat (unusual) she chose longest winter coat- me, ooo thats a good coat seeing as you've bare legs, her - Nooooo!!! No bears legs, no want bears legs, & ran out of the house!!
Anyways, good night peoples
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