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Post by bobjones on Oct 12, 2012 14:25:51 GMT
Watched Glasto on the TV. Bought electric guitar! Tuned it. Two weeks later, tuned it. 10 months later, sold it!
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Post by bobjones on Oct 12, 2012 14:15:45 GMT
It made a day feel longer !! (concerta xl 72mg)
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Post by bobjones on Sept 17, 2012 22:30:41 GMT
That makes no sense at all. You don't have to have been diagnosed as ADHD as a child to be diagnosed as an adult. If you were diagnosed as a child you wouldn't need to be diagnosed as an adult! That's absurd. I thought that Adult ADHD can be assessed by a Psyc but needed to be diagnosed by an ADHD Specialist. If you've not been diagnosed by a specialist, why is he prescribing ADHD meds ??
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Post by bobjones on Sept 13, 2012 12:16:14 GMT
30 years ago - YES!
Now - I'm not sure. Having more money would be nice, allowing me to do things and go places with my son. It's difficult to know what normal would be like and how much of 'me' is formed by the ADHD. Part of my problem with the meds is that I don't know how I 'should' be thinking.
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Post by bobjones on Sept 13, 2012 12:03:35 GMT
I was the exactly same on antidepressant and have been through a load of them. I'm only taking them now because I cant be bother to deal with the side effects on going off and on the next one. Dr Craddock has been off for a while but I think she back soon so she might be quite busy over the next couple of months she's also based out of Neath and Port Talbot. I think to get started, get your diagnosis and the right drugs, any adhd specialist would do!
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Post by bobjones on Sept 13, 2012 11:38:00 GMT
Reading - yes me too , exactly. I started on 27mg concerta with no effect, 72mg was better. The meds can take time, stick with it (I'm only 2 months in). I was on antidepressants before diagnosis so I'm still taking them. Not sure how effective they are but I'm still taking them. Have you been offered antidepressants (as most ADHD meds can increase anxiety + depressive symptoms) ? Is your psych willing to refer you to a specialist ? Maybe ask your gp, community mental health team or PCT to suggest an ADHD specialists in your area (information not referral, find out if they exist first)? There are adult ADHD specialists in Neath and Port Tablot, and Swansea but I think they are fairly busy!! Have a look around this board, someone might have posted about Cardiff PCT! Buy your GF some flowers
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Post by bobjones on Sept 12, 2012 16:17:46 GMT
I think simply asking the school for advice as a concerned parent would be a good start. It's in their (and your DD1's) best interest for you to work together. They'll have probably gone through this a number of times before, use them. I don't know what to suggest about meds, it feels like a hideously difficult decision. Try and get as much advice as you can!!! My situation is very different, I was only diagnosed 2 months ago and have a 6 year old who's every action is assesses within the context of adhd (just in my head, he's oblivious). It's just me being paranoid and I'm sure I'll chill out about it when my meds are sorted! I'm planning to arrange a meeting with school just to make them aware of my diagnosis and just have a general chat on how he's doing. Making them aware is as much as I can do at the moment and may help them any identify symptoms early. All this without making them paranoid and needlessly labelling my son. Good luck!
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Post by bobjones on Sept 12, 2012 11:52:57 GMT
I've always been a night person and absolutely hate mornings. After upping my dose of Concerta I've noticed a real comedown in the evening at a time when I'd normally be more productive. Slightly annoying as I'm not particularly productive at the best of times! This lead me to wonder if ADHDr's have a propensity either way ?
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Post by bobjones on Sept 11, 2012 21:59:24 GMT
lol, I have a nice little bit of both (chaos and order) which is why it confuses me. I have to step over things in one room but in others, everything has it's place. I've ruled out OCD but I'm now wandering towards Aspergers. I've only been diagnosed ADHD a couple of months so I'm wary of over diagnosing or over analysing. Aspergers was never really 'on the list' and before today I'd not read much about it but the more I read, the more I identify with the condition (as it was for ADHD). I'm sure if I did a dyslexia test I'd have that too. I wonder if I can get a prize for having more than one condition, some Tesco vouchers maybe ?
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Post by bobjones on Sept 11, 2012 14:27:55 GMT
I've not fallen off a bike but I once did fall over when stepping up a curb, my brain was so completely 'elseware', I didn't notice until I actually hit the ground.
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Post by bobjones on Sept 11, 2012 14:01:40 GMT
You walk into the kitchen to find a mug containing a very lonely, dry teabag, siting next to the kettle.
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When you find two teabags on the mug you've just pored boiling water into.
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When you realised you've boiled the kettle 3 times but not made a single cup of tea.
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When you find a cup of very stewed, cold tea sitting on the kitchen counter.
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Post by bobjones on Sept 9, 2012 16:55:45 GMT
You go to the local shop in the hopes it will trigger the memory of the thing wanted to buy but can't remember !
You still can't remember but manage to return home with a couple of onions and a ballon pump.
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Post by bobjones on Sept 9, 2012 14:49:47 GMT
Hiding, avoiding and procrastinating has been a big part of it for me. I'd definitely go with joining a voluntary organisation, it'll give you opportunities you to interact but avoid aspects of social pressure that exist in other areas of life (work, friends, relationships, family). You are there because you want to, you can contribute as much or little as you like but make it clear at the start that you may not be able to commit to a regular thing! They should be fine with that and find something appropriate for you to do. I've been involved in Scouting for 20 odd years but my role allows me to easily alter my level of involvement. Obviously there a times when I may be 'needed' but I either just do it or hide. Cultivating an 'unreliable, forgetful' persona is helpful. Nothing will be perfect, just give it a go. Alcohol can make it go both ways. I've self medicated for years, both to counter social awkwardness, avoid boredom and to alleviate depression/sadness, drinking to forget. Rarely good, mostly bad, in my experience.
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Post by bobjones on Sept 9, 2012 13:23:23 GMT
I get annoyed at little things. Often tiny, insignificant little things, stupid things. To give an example.
I have a little plastic cutlery holder on my draining board next to the sink. It is divided into 4 quarters with a slightly shallower 'bit' in the middle, for tea spoons. If they're not in the middle bit you have to take the holder apart to get them out. I get really annoyed when teaspoons aren't put in the middle bit. It's such a tiny thing but I find it so annoying.
I'm the same with the cutlery draw, how the plates/bowls are stacked, what's where in the fridge, which pockets I put phone/wallet/cash/notes etc etc.
I thought it could be OCD's ish but there is rarely repetition, obsessive counting or checking, it just doesn't fit (and a most of my life is messy as hell).
After a lot of over thinking I've come to the conclusion that this is a learned behaviour as a function of my memory issues. Things all have their place simply to compensate for my crappy short term memory. If I have put something somewhere I can visualise it's location, know what it's near and why I put it there!
What da you lot think ? Is it a ADHDr's thing ?
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Post by bobjones on Sept 9, 2012 3:05:49 GMT
Put some music on, put on a film, open a book, anything. Try an focus on something else. Keep yourself busy untill you think you can fall asleep naturally.
If it gets really bad, call someone, NHS, Samaritans, family, friends. Anyone.
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Post by bobjones on Sept 5, 2012 1:11:34 GMT
My son is the only thing that matters. Any joy he gives me is tempered by guilt and anger at my inaction. I should have taken my ex to court years ago.
Apart from my Mental Health mentor, Uni doesn't know. I was diagnosed after the end of term and 2 weeks before the autumn resist, which I missed. I cant afford to do another year!
I hate burdening my friend, life is hard enough with me adding to their worries.
I did spend 4 hours writing 2 letters to my solicitor and my mediator. Something anyway. Attempted to watch 'Woman in Black', gave up after 15 min.
The meds are odd. I'm not really sure what to expect. I'm not anything! Shouldn't they do something?? I would like to give some to someone I know and analyse the reaction, comparing mine (not something I'm considering doing!). These are relatively strong stimulants! Something, anything!
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Post by bobjones on Sept 5, 2012 0:48:40 GMT
No, crazy is fine and on here almost a prerequisite. Body fit for work, mind not. Snap. Fried brain. Snap I think; ADHD includes hyper kinetic and combined type (annoying, hyper) ADD is inattentive and possibly combined type. (reclusive, quiet, frustrated) Definitions vary by country, doctor, publication, day of the week. All very frustrating. Some doctors think that ADHD is exist on a scale (as ASD) others think ADHD is misnamed. The difficulty in defining the conditions is compounded by the myriad of co-morbid disorders. For your doctor try, the paper, Evidence-based guidelines for management of attention-deficit/ hyperactivity disorder in adolescents in transition to adult services and in adults: recommendations from the British Association for Psychopharmacology. www.bap.org.uk/pdfs/ADHD_Guidelines.pdfOr even try the Nice Guidelines www.nice.org.uk/CG72Also, check out anything online (You tube) but Russell Barkley. He seems a very nice man.
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Post by bobjones on Sept 3, 2012 23:01:39 GMT
It's nearly midnight and I'm watching Robin Hood Price of Thieves!
I did nothing all day, again. My car has been given the last rights. My bank keeps calling. I have an unopened letter from the police. I have an unopened letter from the courts. I have spent the last year doing a MSc. Missed most of the lectures, handed in 20% of the coursework and not started my project. I have had no contact with the University in 2 months. I have a mediation session with my son's mother on thursday. The last one before an almost inevitable court date. Tomorrow is my first day on 72Mg Concerta. I'm miserable and hideously lonely.
I'm in limbo and cant break out.
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Post by bobjones on Sept 3, 2012 1:17:27 GMT
Don't get me started on cats!!!! Even if I meet a nice woman, she'll have a bloody cat. I'm allergic to bloody cats.
Uncontrollable sneezing and suggestions for good cat recipes tends to kill the mood!
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Post by bobjones on Aug 30, 2012 18:28:12 GMT
The main reason for me getting a diagnosis is my son (6), given the heredity of ADHD. I've pretty much given up on me, he is my focus now.
For project, maybe try audiobooks or distance learning. There is a load of stuff on the net. You can stick an ipod in your ear all day and still play, tidy etc. At one point I tried to learn 4 languages simultaneously!!
Something like iTunesU or Kahn Academy could be useful. Short punch of info to hyper focus on!
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Post by bobjones on Aug 30, 2012 18:00:39 GMT
Good luck but no advice. My last job ended with me, failing to explain why I work a busy busy 60/70hr week without being able to remember or justify where my time went. 2.5years later after a diagnosis, I kind of know! There is some info here, www.adders.org/info118.htm
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Post by bobjones on Aug 29, 2012 19:25:43 GMT
I don't date or to be more accurate, I've had 2 dates in the last 5 years and one odd 'we're not a couple' thing with an old friend.
I think there a many reasons;
1. Shy, always been a problem. 2. I don't go out. Obviously an issue. 3. The only women I know are friends girlfriends and wives. 4. No money. Women are expensive. 5. No job. Women are expensive. 6. I'm 6 stone overweight and lack any confidence. 7. I am attracted to intelligent women (with who I'm less likely to get bored). I will actually find a woman more attractive if she has a postgrad qualification! 8. I'm bad at dates where I drink too much (I don't fancy her) or talk too much (if I like her).
I have considered giving up on relationships completely and focusing on bringing up my son and try not to become the loony wandering around my local park in deep conversation with benches, trees or pigeons!
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Post by bobjones on Aug 29, 2012 12:44:42 GMT
The limbo may not stop on diagnosis. Getting the right meds may take time too. Be prepared but know you are going in the right direction. "Work mode" is something I recognise and with hindsight could easily be the adhd 'hyper focus'. Starting projects, books, tasks etc. and not finishing is what I do! I have 100's of projects on the go! None of them are even close to being completed. Every day is a busy, busy, busy but nothing gets done! Family is hard. Get them to watch some of the Russell Barkley youtube videos. Hopefully it may give them a greater understanding of what you're going through.
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Post by bobjones on Aug 27, 2012 23:18:15 GMT
Snap (nothing done, no concentration, hiding, using the ADHD as an excuse), but I'm dealing with life after the diagnosis. I just don't know where to start, so I haven't! Your not alone
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Post by bobjones on Aug 26, 2012 23:53:42 GMT
Being intelligent and a fairly good long term memory. If I had problems I played the fool or hid or played dumb.
I managed to get a mediocre set of qualifications (GCSE to BSc) without doing much work at all!
Although I am about to be kicked of my current MSc course for not getting any work done, only one of my modules contained content I wasn't able to understand (but that was mainly due to a poor understanding of the mathematical notation and missing half the lectures!).
Getting diagnosed a year earlier would have been brilliant, 20 years earlier, even better!
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Post by bobjones on Aug 21, 2012 12:18:57 GMT
Medication causes headache. Go to the shop to buy paracetamol On entering the shop forget what you were there to buy Wander around the shop filling your basket with stuff you might need! Pay, Get to the car, get in Get pissed off at the headache which is stopping me from remembering what I wanted in the first place. Remember that I needed paracetamols. Back to the shop, get paracetamols and numerous other things I didn't need. Pay, car, home, grrrrr!
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Post by bobjones on Aug 21, 2012 12:04:34 GMT
Dithering idiot here! I've an exam in 2 hours, I've not started revising and I'm still in bed! The advantage to staying on to do a PHD is that the University's are likely to be more sympathetic to your condition than a bog standard workplace. You are more likely to have access to support and will give you more time to identify and develop coping strategies. Most importantly, you're doing a PHD, how cool is that and you're ADHD brain will love it!
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Post by bobjones on Aug 19, 2012 13:13:58 GMT
I've not be through the process so I don't really know how it works but it sounds like they made up their before they even started.
Have they given a reason for the refusal?
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Post by bobjones on Aug 19, 2012 12:51:46 GMT
How about a popup for every 20min were logged in!
i.e. You have been procrastinating for x minutes!!!
Maybe use the session timestamp?
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Post by bobjones on Aug 19, 2012 12:21:28 GMT
You have a referral. Thats good! Really good! Until you've been diagnosed there is little you can actually do so worrying is a waste of time and effort. The little you can do is document the symptoms. Try not to focus on just ADHD symptoms, ADHD is commonly co-mobid with many other conditions. The sooner you can identify, the better. Start here, aadduk.proboards.com/index.cgi?board=symptoms&action=display&thread=5473 Talk to people you trust, get their input. Document it. They might have more of an insight than you. Self awareness was never my strong point, it took me years to get smallest amount. I still can't act on the awareness that I do have Good luck!
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